The Second Wound is a site for survivors of trauma, such as sexual abuse and assault. It was created to address revictimization, a surprisingly common phenomenon in which survivors experience victim-blaming, denial, and similarly damaging responses when opening up about their painful life experiences. In a high percentage of cases, family members, friends, and even some professionals:
These devastating responses are far more common than most people realize. When put in these positions, survivors end up feeling blindsided, confused, and alone, all while working to heal from their original traumas. These behaviors create a “second wound," which often mirrors the elements of abuse and assault, leaving survivors feeling ashamed and powerless.
– fail to believe the truth
– minimize the lived experiences of survivors
– blame, shame, scapegoat, and / or ostracize survivors
– create smear campaigns against survivors
– exclude survivors from group and family activities
– attempt to silence survivors
The Second Wound is a site where you can come to feel understood, supported, and empowered by those who truly understand: your fellow survivors.
You may need guidance as you navigate the minefield of destructive reactions to the truth. I believe that you can overcome this second wound and lead a healthy, fulfilling life. As a fellow survivor with a Masters in Social Work, I understand, and I am here to help.
Check out Miranda’s podcast, Truth and Consequences: Navigating the Aftermath of Trauma.
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