You are not a troublemaker. You are a truth teller. “As if the abuse wasn’t bad enough.” - A Survivor The truth hurts. But it helps so much more. Who’s to say what survivors need and deserve? Survivors, that’s who.

What is the Second Wound?

If telling the truth will ruin your family, there is something very wrong with your family that only the TRUTH can fix.

Welcome to The Second Wound, a site for survivors of trauma, including sexual abuse and assault. The Second Wound was created to address re-victimization, a surprisingly common phenomenon in which survivors experience victim-blaming, denial, and other damaging responses to their painful life experiences. In a surprisingly high percentage of cases, family members, friends, and even some professionals:

  • Fail to believe the truth
  • Minimize survivors’ experiences
  • Blame survivors in some way
  • Scapegoat and shame
  • Ostracize them from group or family activities (even as they include perpetrators of abuse) 
  • and attempt to silence victims

These devastating responses are far more common than most people realize. Already wounded, survivors end up feeling blindsided, confused, and alone. All while they work to heal from their original trauma. These behaviors create a “second wound” that has no endpoint. What’s worse, it often mirrors the elements of abuse and assault, leaving survivors feeling ashamed and powerless.

The Second Wound is a site where you can come to feel understood, supported, and empowered by those who truly understand, your fellow survivors. 

You may need guidance as you navigate the minefield of destructive reactions to the truth. I believe that you can overcome this second wound and lead a healthy, fulfilling life. As a fellow survivor with a Masters in Social Work, I understand and I am here to help. 

You are not a troublemaker. You are a truth-teller.

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